Do You Feel Stuck? and The Keys to Getting Through It
Yes, it can happen to all of us – sometimes, we seem to get stuck in the same old daily routine. The problem with getting stuck is that we get overwhelmed by problems. Sometimes it can be difficult to maintain a positive attitude, when life just seems to revolve around and around with no way out. No matter what we do, or what we try, there just seems to be no way to get off the merry-go-round! Do you know the feeling?
Are you on the Spin Cycle?
Because we are all different, we all experience our own version of getting stuck, and it can look different for all of us. Maybe you have experienced some of the following symptoms of getting stuck;
- When we feel stuck, it can seem like everything becomes very repetitive
- Impossible to get off the merry go round
- Stuck in the same dull routine
- Caught up on the spin cycle
- Seems like there is never enough time to do the fun things
- Go to work each day, earn just enough to pay the bills
- Unable to get ahead in life
- Nothing ever seems to change?
Life is too short to waste!
Now I sympathise with you if you feel your life has become boring. And I understand the pain caused when we get overwhelmed by problems. But sometimes, we have to take a deep breath, and take an objective look at what is going on. Maybe things aren’t as bad as we perceive, or maybe we need to ask for help! Maybe we can learn to help ourselves to climb out of the hole we find ourselves lost in. Life is too short to waste, get out there and make the best of it!
Alcohol is not the answer!
What I do know from my own experience is that we need to be careful if alcohol has sneaked into our life. I know from experience that drinking can become an easy way out. Drinking too much can become an excuse for not coping with the challenges of life. Instead, alcohol can seem to be the perfect solution with a promise to make it more exciting.
You can ‘t trust alcohol
But I don’t believe that alcohol is actually trying to be your friend. In fact, The opposite is true. Alcohol is never your friend, it is just the great pretender, offering to make life fun and exciting, but it never lasts. The problem is that one drink may be enjoyable, but after several drinks too many, the hangover starts. And there is nothing good that can be said about suffering a hangover!
Another example of how alcohol can let you down is when you invite some friends over for a drink. Before long, someone gets too boisterous, and next minute an argument breaks out, or someone goes over the top. Instead of having fun with your friends, alcohol spoils the party, and there is nothing you can do about it.
Alcohol leads to Trouble
Have you ever been caught out when you are enjoying a couple of celebratory drinks, but things get out of hand. Before you know it, you have way too many drinks, the party has gone way too late. To make matters worse, it is no longer safe for you to drive home, and when you do finally make it home, you are very late and in all sorts of trouble! Unfortunately I have found myself in this pickle once too many times!
Can you Control Alcohol?
There are probably many other scenarios that we have found ourselves in trouble for not being able to control our drinking habit. And this is really what I mean when I say that alcohol is not our friend. But at the end of the day, we are responsible for our own behaviour, and there has to be a time when we recognise the problem for what it really is. Often times drinking too much is merely an excuse for our behaviour, and when we can no longer control our drinking habit, we need to recognise the need to take action.
But are you still stuck?
The point here is that when we feel stuck, we can turn to the wrong way to escape from the boredom – Drinking can only offer relief in the short term. Before long, drinking becomes yet another one of the familiar patterns that become just another bad habit – as if we need any more of those?
So rather than helping to get us unstuck – a daily drinking habit actually makes us more stuck.
How do I know all this?
- Well, I tried to cut back on drinking, until something goes wrong and then straight back to drinking too much
- I tried drinking on weekends only, until the daily stress built up, and I started drinking every day again
- I tried sticking to the recommended daily drinking limit, and they changed to limit by half!
- That just made me feel as if I wanted to drink more, but I was constantly in denial.
And what happens when the stress piles up, and everything seems to go wrong – just drink more, right??? WRONG!!
What should we do when we feel stuck?
Feeling stuck is exactly that – it is a feeling, not a state of fact. Sure you feel stuck – but you are actually not stuck – go on, move your fingers and toes LOL – see not stuck! Actually we need to feel our feelings – not drug them, not suppress them. So this is the way out of the problem, this is the super solution when you get stuck – just get moving!!
Go on – I challenge you – get help to stop drinking, stop trying to suppress those feelings, stop trying to bury your head in the sand, get out there and make some change in your life – right now!