It is always a good time for a little self reflection, so I want to ask if you want to be awesome? Do you want to be perfect?
Well, there is a problem here, and I want to send a warning about trying to be perfect. It is not worth it! Being awesome is a much better aspiration!
The search for perfection
See, the problem with trying to be perfect is that it is full of negative connotations, and imperfections. Sounds odd doesn’t it that trying to be perfect might be a problem, but let me explain. These days, there are negative connotations around the extensions perfectionism and perfectionist. These terms are actually associated with the problems around being too perfect. Trying to be too perfect can actually lead to frustration, procrastination, and cause a real blockage to being perfect. The harder we try to be perfect, the harder it can be to ever achieve it. And then beware should someone ever try to critique someone who is perfect, because that never goes down well.
Don’t be Perfect – Just Be Awesome!
Instead, I venture to say that we should aim for awesome, because we can all be awesome, without the added pressure of perfectionism. But if you perceive that awesome is too hard to achieve, then I have some good news for you! The good news is that you are already awesome, because you were born awesome, and nothing can change that. But the question is – would you call yourself awesome? Would you use the word – perfect to describe yourself? If not – then why not, because you are, I am, we all are. And I can prove it!
Born Awesome
So I would like to talk about being born awesome. You see, that is when we were born as simply perfect. It is a seldom acknowledged fact that when we were born – we were born awesome and perfect.
There could not have been a more perfect example of perfection. All babies are born beautiful, and so were you and I. We were all born as lovable, adorable, gorgeous and totally perfect little babies. We could not have possibly done anything to be less than perfect – we were simply awesome. Ask your parent or guardian. Ask any parent, all babies are perfect, especially their own!
We are all perfect on the inside
And I am going to say that we still have that same perfect, adorable and totally lovable person inside them. We all do – and so do I!!
But if that statement does not feel like the truth, then we need to talk about that. Because very few of us as adults seem to relate to the concept that we are perfect on the inside. Most of us tend to focus on the negative aspects, which is not helpful. Most of us tend to let our perceptions of what other people say or what other people think, to dominate our thoughts. In other words, we allow other people’s judgements cloud our own opinion of ourselves.
When did it all change?
We were probably fine until about school age – and then WHAM. That is when the outside world really imposed itself on us at that young age. Expectations, imperatives, influence, control and discipline. The older we get, the more the outside world imposes itself on us, and the more we have to conform to society.
Like I said – WHAM. Sounds scary doesn’t it, but for most of us it was a very impressionable time, and a time that could have been confusing or concerning. Life just happens and that is generally the way it continues as we grow up…
It is all perception
And of course, we continue to adapt and conform for most of our life. Sure, the process can take a long time to evolve, but what happens is that the longer the growing process goes on, the harder it is to find that awesome, perfect and lovable inner self – which was there when we started, and is still in there now. But we all need to know that our beautiful inner being never left us. But what did happen is that we might have been told that we were less than awesome, we might have been shown that we are not as perfect as others. And the enormous impact of social media shows us images and words every single day of other people who seem to be doing better than us. In reality it is our perception of what others think of us, and what others think of themselves.
And unfortunately, we probably believed it. But the reality is that none of what we perceive may be the truth. We really don’t know what other peoples lives and struggles are like. Even successful people have struggles, even if they appear to hav e everything.
You can be awesome
I just want to say that we were all born awesome – we are all awesome people – and you can never be less than awesome!
Now my challenge for you – do you need to go and remind yourself that you are awesome?
Then I encourage you to get in touch with your inner self, or let me show you how!